This article really caught my attention. Kids are born with a set I.Q. so there’s not much change to be had. Self-Discipline otherwise known as Self-Regulation can be taught and learned. Take a look at this article and pay special attention to the graph if you don’t have time to read…
If we can teach our kids to exert strong emotional, physical and cognitive self-regulation, we will ensure greater life expectancy and overall academic performance.
Why are kids so anxious?
Posted September 19, 2011 by jodymossCategories: child behaviour, Health and Nutrition, learning
Tags: anxiety
I wonder why kids are so anxious these days….
Let’s take a minute and think about what September looks like for most kids:
1. It’s the start of a new school year. We drop them off for a week straight wherein most of them don’t find out who their teacher or classmates are going to be until the next week.
2. New sport teams and possible tryouts
3. New bus drivers, new Administrators, new daycare providers etc…
4. Predators in the school yard…what?
That’s right…I dropped off my daughter the other morning and was greeted by another parent with the warning off…beware, there was a bear sighting this morning!
I really noticed the build up this year as the end of summer rolled around. My kids were faced with the question “Are you excited for school” at least 4 times a day.
For most, the new school year isn’t a big event. For others, this NEW start can be overwhelming! Keep this in mind and get your kids talking about how they are feeling. The best thing you can do is model how you take on new events. With outloud dialogue, let your kids know that you find it helpful to:
*breathe
*count to ten
*go for walks
*massage your cheekbones (i.e. kids can build up a lot of tension in their jaw bones especially if they are nail biters or teeth clenchers in the night)
*drink lots of water
*rehearse internal positive mantra “September is always crazy, go with the flow…”
Something to keep in mind: Experts estimate that up to 75% of all medical disorders are directly influenced by stress.
Nothing is going to go in from an intellectual standpoint if your kid is stressed out…fill up their buckets everyday before they head out the door!
Chores and Kids
Posted August 15, 2011 by jodymossCategories: child behaviour
Tags: behaviour, chores, kids
It’s all about the random request! Kids these days are busy and over scheduled. So, is it a fair expectation to have them help out around the house?
I grew up in a house where there were weekly expectations around chores. I think this taught me how to clean properly. My mom wouldn’t let go until the job met her standards! Believe me I tried to complete as quickly as I could so that I could do what I wanted to do. This created quite the power struggle; however, I do believe the process taught me how to clean.
I am asked this question a lot so I have given it a lot of thought. The goal of the exercise is for your kids to reach the end stage of “How can I help you?” If you are bringing the groceries in, you want your kids to naturally grab a bag on the way in without the request. If you are getting ready to make dinner, your son is getting the forks out. If you are steam cleaning the floors, your daughter says “Can I do that”.
All fine and dandy, but how do you get there?
It’s about setting up a climate of expectations in the house. Here are some simple guidelines to help you get there:
1. We are a team and everyone needs to help
2. It’s not fair for one person to do all the work
3. When your kid asks you to play soccer outside, answer back with…I can play once all of this laundry is put away. It will go a lot faster if we all pitch in.
4. Routine, Routine, Routine
i.e. When your laundry basket is full, you need to bring it down to the laundry room. When I put your clothes in a pile on your bed, it’s your job to put them away.
5. Rewards
The biggest hint of all is to Reward any spontaneous helping. If your kid says “I’ll set the table” without you asking…make a huge deal of it.
Good Luck
P.S. Here’s a handy chart for age appropriate chores
It it aint broke don’t fix it…writing and fine motor activities for kids
Posted June 26, 2009 by jodymossCategories: child behaviour, learning
Tags: Child Behaviour Strategies, Fine Motor, learning, writing behaviour
Fine motor skills are our ability to use our fingers, hands, and arms together to reach, grasp, manipulate small objects and use tools like forks, spoons, crayons and scissors. The coordination of Fine Motor Skills and integration with our abilities enable us to learn complex skills like fastening buttons and zippers, eating with a fork and knife, and printing, handwriting, typing and cutting.
The building of fine motor skills in children will enable them to perform a variety of important functional tasks. These include:
-tying shoes
-zipping and unzipping
- buckling and unbuckling
- writing legibly and without significant muscle fatigue
-playing games that require precise hand and finger control
-drawing, painting, and coloring
-manipulating buttons and snaps
-putting small objects together
-doing puzzles
-making crafts
-using scissors
-manipulating small objects such as coins
-opening and closing objects
-picking up and holding onto small objects
-developing and maintaining an effective and proper pencil grip
-pinching objects between fingers
-using locks and keys
-being able to isolate finger movements (i.e., using one finger at a time, such as in playing the piano or typing)
-turning things over or turning pages of a book
-holding and using utensils properly and effectively
-screwing and unscrewing
and doing ANYTHING that requires small precise hand and finger movements
I’ve been in the classroom and witnessed first hand how frustrating it can be to not be able to keep up to these demands. Fine motor simply means the use our fine also known as intrinsic muscles in our fingers. Kids can start developing these muscles early on.
Therapro.com has a great list of activities to work from. The key is to have fun while helping your child master and develop their little muscles.
The school district I worked in started developing tool kits for teachers to make use of in order to target groups of Kindergarten kids who entered school with very weak and underdeveloped fine motor muscles. You can do the same at home.
When it comes to writing, the key is to start with the larger muscle movements that incorporate all of the upper body muscles, i.e. drawing large circles on an upright easel, then to work your way down to finer muscle movements.
One important thing, do not try to change your child’s writing grasp pattern unless it is causing the writing to be hard to read or unless your child fatigues quickly while writing. Many children and adults use grasp patterns that are not a tripod grasp, but do not have writing deficits. Changing the grasp pattern may cause the person to have writing difficulties.
Please let me know what you think or write and share some of your ideas…
Rewarding good child behaviour with food, not such a good idea.
Posted June 15, 2009 by jodymossCategories: child behaviour, Health and Nutrition, learning
Tags: behaviour, child behavior, Child Behaviour Strategies, Health and Nutrition, learning, nutrition and kids
About 20 percent of children are overweight. Over the past three decades, the childhood obesity rate has more than doubled for preschool children aged 2-5 years and adolescents aged 12-19 years…enough said.
It’s extremely important to reinforce good behaviour immediately as this will increase the odds of that good behaviour continuing to happen. However, relating good behaviour to food, also reinforces an emotional connection that may lead to future bad habits. I did good, therefore, I get a food reward. It’s like saying “You need to eat healthy foods to feel and do your best, but when you behave or perform your best, you will be rewarded with unhealthy food.”
I think it’s really important to teach kids that we eat food as a source of energy, and yes, there are of course delicious treats involved in that process.
Research clearly demonstrates that healthy kids learn better. I used to be so choked when I would observe kids with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder on ritalin eat a lunch filled with sweets.
Pretty counterproductive….
You want to be working towards concrete rewards such as time at the park, a walk after dinner with the family, two books before bed etc…
Here’s five reasons for not using food as a reward:
1) compromises learning
2) contributes to poor health
3) encourages overconsumption of unhealthy foods
4) contributes to poor eating habits
5) increases preference for sweets
I’d love to hear from you, let me know what you think.
How should I go about teaching my child how to read?
Posted June 11, 2009 by jodymossCategories: learning
Tags: learning, reading
Teaching kids how to read is not as easy as it may look. The best predictor for a future strong reader is a child that can recognize and produce words that rhyme. Even if they are nonsense rhymes, have fun while driving in the car. Get your kids to come up with words that rhyme with a silly word. For example, hum…drum….sum…and well you can pretty much guess what else they may come up with.
After years of working with kids and getting them to learn their letter sounds, otherwise termed phonics. Here’s a website worth taking a look at. www.starfall.com
Once your child knows their letter sounds, encourage them to go ahead and write out cards, grocery lists and email using their sounds. You’ll be amazed what they come up with!
My kids don’t listen!
Posted June 9, 2009 by jodymossCategories: child behaviour
Tags: behaviour, child behavior, Child Behaviour Strategies, learning, toddler
Every now and then I hear parents complaining that their kids don’t listen to their requests to do specific tasks as they move through their day. Here’s an experiment for you to test out. Count how many times you repeat the same request. For example, a common request in my house is “please go get your shoes on”.
I will let you in on a big secret…kids have amazing radar, they can detect tone of voice from a mile away. I can bet that each time you find yourself repeating the same request, you use a different tone of voice. Kids finally respond to the “Oh, my goodness, now she means business” tone immediately.
So here’s a simple strategy I like to call “zone defence”. Kids are also great at knowing their parent’s proximity at all times. The first step is to make a clear request, ensuring you have their full attention. The best way to ensure they have received the message is to make eye contact, relay the message and then have them repeat it back to you.
Now the ball is in their court. So here’s how your request should sound,
“Sarah, I need you to put your shoes on”. The basic rule of thumb is that kids can retain up to 1 request per grade level. So if your daughter or son is in grade two, you’d be able to make two consecutive requests. For example “Sarah, I need you to put your shoes on and pick out a fruit for your snack”.
Once you’ve made a clear request, go about getting yourself ready and out the door. It will only take a few minutes before your kids realize, hey, where did mom or dad go? This teaches the kids, that you are only going to make a request once. It’s a great exercise you’ll probably have to repeat at the beginning of every week. It’s pretty easy to fall back to repeating yourself.
My child is avoiding learning situations….
Posted May 20, 2009 by jodymossCategories: child behaviour, Health and Nutrition, Uncategorized
Tags: child behavior, Child Behaviour Strategies, learning, math, numbers, numeracy, toddler
So, after years of working with kids, I have to say I was a little slow on this one. So I’ve been trying to teach my son his colours. He has already developed the “class clown” kind of attitude whereby he’ll play dumb or do something silly in order to avoid answering a finite question. I’ll share a few examples to illustrate my point. When you ask my son his name, he’ll tell you it’s “Bob” (not even close). When you ask him what he wants for breakfast he’ll tell you he wants worms with Ketchup on it. I feel so blessed to have such a silly boy make me laugh everyday.
But, it does become a little concerning when you try and teach him something new and he gives you silly answers or rolls and runs away. So, I gave it some thought and realized I was going about teaching him his colours the same way I had taught my daughter. Very direct and explicit….I would point to clothes, pictures in books and food and tell her the colors and eventually she just got it. What is wrong with him, is he colour blind I thought to myself?
Then it dawned on me….what do you do when a child is not grasping a concept in the school system? You think of their interests and passions and tackle the concept that way. So, the good Canadian boy that my son is just happens to be obsessed with Hockey. I use the words obsessed lightly. He goes to sleep with his hockey stick and kisses his puck goodnight. He has even gotten up in the morning with stick crease marks across his chest.
Well, needless to say, I woke up this morning with a superb surprise. My son was quietly flipping through an old coffee table book we’ve had for years about Hockey that I broke out for him to look at. He has all of sudden taken an interest in books, colours, counting and numbers. Pretty exciting stuff.
I’ve just discovered an educational tool worth a mention. Discovery Toys has a Busy Bugs Learning Set, that is a must have if you are trying to teach early math concepts such as patterning, colors, counting, sorting etc…
There are 14 double sided cards that a child can work progressively through, plus you can use your imagination and make up your own activities. A really fun way to get kids to learn using an interactive set of squishy bugs.
Please chime in with your own experiences with kids and avoidance behaviour…
Get your child to love numbers and improve their behaviour
Posted April 8, 2009 by jodymossCategories: child behaviour
Tags: behaviour, learning, math, numbers, numeracy
JUMP Math is a numeracy program started in 1998 by mathematician, author and award-winning playwright John Mighton. He runs a federally registered charitable organization based out of Toronto, Canada.
“JUMP Math believes that all children can be led to think mathematically, and that with even a modest amount of attention every child will flourish. By demonstrating that even children who are failing math or are labeled as slow learners can excel at math, we hope to dispel the myths that currently prevail. We offer educators and parents complete and balanced materials as well as training to help them reach all students.”
“We convince people they have only one talent, or usually there’s only one subject that’s not beyond their grasp. And I think that’s totally unnecessary. From my work with kids I’m quite convinced that kids are born almost universally with abilities in both areas, if we would nurture those abilities.”
Oh, and if this isn’t enough to get you excited about re-introducing your child to Math, John Mighton was the brain behind the movie “Goodwill Hunting” starring Matt Damon.
Power food-Acai berry
Posted April 6, 2009 by jodymossCategories: child behaviour, Health and Nutrition
Tags: child behaviour, Health and Nutrition, sleep
Strengthening the immune system is something we all think about over the cold season, so you might want to remind yourself of this recipe come January. What caught my attention was “promoting sound sleep!”. What parent isn’t craving a sound sleep from their children?
Two- and three-year-old children sleeping less than 10 hours in a 24-hour period were consistently at greatest risk for behavior problems such as oppositional or non-compliant behavior, “acting out” behaviors, and aggression, reported the team of Northwestern University scientists conducting the study.
Preschoolers who sleep less at night have almost 25 percent greater chance of psychiatric diagnosis, according to the study, published in the June issue of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics.
Açaí Fruit Smoothie
For increased energy, mix a delicious smoothie featuring this highly nutritious Brazilian berry. It’s known for its high anti-oxidant count and for strengthening the immune system, promoting sound sleep, cleaning and detoxifying the body, improving circulation and more.
Ingredients:
1 cup organic fruit juice
1 cup fresh organic fruit
3 Tbsp. protein powder
1 oz 100% pure Acai juice
1 Tbsp. omega-3 oil
1 Tbsp. ground flax seed
(if required, add extra juice or water for desired consistency)
Method
Pour the organic fruit juice, organic fruit and protein powder in a blender and mix until well blended.
So, those of you who know me, know that I am pretty biased when it comes to feeding my kids organic foods. The simple reason is that I feel like I am getting ripped off otherwise. I’d love to be able to measure the difference in the amount of nutrients in organic vs. non-organic produce.
Please send in recipes or info you might have on the Acai Berry…
